Your nightly dreaming is possibly the most
creative, spontaneous thing you do in your life. These dreams
present a wonderful opportunity to find missing and disowned
parts of your true self. When your self censoring mode is off
in the dream state, certain people, symbols, feelings and
meanings will emerge. Often you awake from a dream quite
puzzled about what you have experienced.
You may have managed to repress certain strong feelings in
your waking hours, but left unbridled and able to roam in the
dream state, they will always emerge. It may take some courage
to face these holes in your personality however there is
immense potential for self discovery when these dreams are
experienced in the present moment.
It is possible to re-experience the dream using the
following technique. Begin taking advantage of this simple
technique to allow yourself to recapture these lost parts of
Begin by choosing a vivid dream you recall,
whether it occurred last night or decades ago. Often the more
bizarre and confusing the dream may be, the more vital
information it contains.
Make a mental note of all the individual parts of the dream.
All the people, places and things. For example, I may dream
that I was in an old blue truck that was parked outside a
On the seat next to me was a chain saw and a pair of work
boots. The sky was cloudy and it looked about ready to rain.
Approaching the truck and carrying a potted plant was someone
who resembled a former teacher. I awake feeling completely
bewildered by this dream.
The old blue truck, cottage, seat, chain saw, work boots,
cloudy sky, potted plant and teacher are all of supreme
importance. Our intent is not to analyze these parts of the
dream, rather to re-experience them in the present moment. We
do not want to involve the intellect.
Remember that this dream is uniquely yours, created in your
mind with meaning to you only. Books which interpret symbols
tend to miss the mark, because meaning is unique to the dreamer
and the dreamer's life experiences.
Once you have made this mental list of dreams
items, begin by using the previously learned meditation to
center yourself in the now. Use the hand technique to get
grounded in the present moment. One by one we are going to, in
the now, become or re-experience each individual part of the
This may sound difficult or strange so let me
clarify. Each and every part of the dream is originating from
within, telling a story about you for you, relaying a message
from your subconscious. Follow patiently because this
In my dream example, if I become or re-experience
the old blue truck, really become it, I may say (as the blue
truck) " I'm dependable" or "I've never let you down before" or
"I've given you my best years" and at the same time I am "blue"
or sad or depressed. You may be saying, "So, what does that
Well perhaps upon examining this previously
puzzling dream, I have the following realization. I am
currently in a relationship where I feel that I could honestly
say to the other person " I'm dependable" or "I've never let
you down before" or "I've given you my best years" but at the
same time I feel "blue" or sad. Perhaps on some deep level, I
feel that there is a certain amount of inequality in this
relationship, but I've never expressed these feelings because
of the threat of a painful end to this relationship.
So I have managed to repress these feelings during
my waking hours. They are never totally repressed however; they
will arise in the dream state. With this new found realization,
I could approach this person with honest expression and
possibly find a resolution. With resolution, the dream item
would then disappear from future dreams.
Where are you during anesthesia?
A subscriber to this newsletter recently posed a very thoughtful question.
Although he was almost convinced that there is something more to us than body and mind (by the mere fact that we can observe the body and the mind which must involve an "it" that does the observing), he asked why this "it" remains subject to external influences?
He cited general anesthesia which "knocks us out during an operation. It goes black and that's that. We wake up after, and for a few short moments we do not know who we are, where we are or why we are". He questioned; "If there is something else, why is it also affected by general anesthesia and not able to be separate to which is happening during an operation?"
To respond in a meaningful way, we must examine the origin of the word anesthesia. We find it is from the Greek - anaisth sia - which means "lack of sensation".
Even though our sensory abilities are suspended at this time, we clearly still exist, as evidenced by the passage of time and witnesses to the event. If one were to rely solely on the mind in this instance, one would genuinely state that one did not exist. We have no memory of the event but this does not preclude any type of awareness. There was awareness enough to continue respiration, blood flow, temperature regulation, and so on.
If I were to ask you to recall what you were specifically aware of at 7:03 pm on the 15th of last month, it is likely your memory would fail you. The mind and in turn the memory are not infallible. Perhaps you have even had the experience of driving a long distance and suddenly being aware that you have been so preoccupied that you do not recall the last 5 miles which you clearly had the awareness to navigate! Or the last 5 pages of a book you are finding terribly boring which you nonetheless used your eye movements to scan and recognize words. There was certainly an ongoing level of awareness during these examples, yet our memory betrays us.
Going further, a non-dualist would say that the past and future exist in the mind only and are bound by time and space. That in reality all is one and all is here and now. The law of cause and effect is still in the mind only, but you are not your mind. By this definition, anesthesia would be in the mind only.
It really is quite remarkable when we begin to consider the
vast amounts of energy we consume needlessly. Large amounts of
energy are used to sustain our delusions, fantasies and various
levels of unawareness. When we are centered and remaining in
the moment as much as possible, then our energy flows smoothly
from one moment to the next.
When we are able to approach each moment from our center
(our source), the appropriate response to the actions of others
and events around us will occur quite naturally. This skill
will sharpen through the continued use of the meditation
When we choose (and it is a choice) to leave the safe haven
of the present moment and become caught up in our thoughts,
imaginings and fantasies, our naturally flowing energy now is
diverted. In order to maintain these illusions, our mind will
construct elaborate schemes and rationalizations to justify our
For example, you feel slighted or treated unfairly by
someone, and the image of the event gets replayed in your mind
until resentment builds. Now your imagination begins to
envision and create scenarios like "next time I see him/her I'm
going to tell them..." and "if they respond in this manner then
I'll respond with....".
On and on, the multiple possibilities of various
confrontations and interactions that may or may not even occur
are visualized, analyzed, and replayed. The energy that would
normally flow naturally and allow you to rely on your immediate
intuitive abilities becomes blocked. That energy is now
required to sustain this continued layer of fantasy between
your true self and the other individual.
Furthermore, feelings of guilt may arise upon being aware of
these resentments and these guilty feelings further tax your
psyche and require yet more energy to keep you from spiraling
out of control. These false layers block true, direct
communication between individuals and can become habitual
You may unconsciously extend these feelings towards other
individuals you encounter in the future. To illustrate this
point consider the following example. Lets say the individual
with whom the current resentment involves, happens to have a
Three years later you happen to be introduced to a stranger
with a reddish beard and immediately you feel a sense of
uneasiness. All the while you are completely unaware as to the
basis of this feeling. Be careful to note what you assume are
merely "first impressions" may possibly be impressions from a
previous experience dating back days, months or even years!
To prevent the unnecessary depletion of your vital life
energy, try to commit to remaining centered in the present
moment. This will prevent the bottling up and misuse of the
very life force that will propel you from moment to moment with
Sleep when you're dead; until then keep
this ain't a Friends episode
and it won't be painless.
Pain tells us something's amuck,
that there's something to learn,
to make you stronger
so that you may weather what is sure to
It's all right though
you'll do just fine
just remember to breathe
and see clearly
without turning away.
If you find you've been sleepwalking,
change from your pj's
lest you nod off again following fashion.
Too much curiosity about sweetness
killed the cat nonetheless
taste the bitterness too
then put it in its place
on the table of your dreams.
Use the sun as your guide
inside and out
inside never setting
know it to be true.
the door opens inward
let it open and flood your landscape
just breathe and stay above it.
You are pursued by time
timepiece or not
grin while it ravishes
and gently hold the timeless in your soul.
Fight the good fight
because you can
because you must.
When you fall
softly or with full force
you'll see up close the ground of your being
in ways never noticed before.
When others fall
let them see what they must too
everyone's prints are different
lend them yours
so they may see beyond themselves.
Count your blessings
with tax time precision
file in timely fashion
and let go.
The fire is yours
to stoke or to douse.
It is your call
listen for it
recognize the familiar voice
need not be taken with tea
determine what you want
before it's decided for you
the transaction barely noticed
the whimper unheard.
When you are sliding
take care to steer in the opposite direction
when your brakes squeak
trust you're not the only one who notices.
Ignore the symptoms and eventually others
will let you know...if you can still hear
and sleep will surely come.
Keep your heart clean. Every 5000 miles bring it in. Only
bring it to those you trust, so that you're ready for the next
5000 miles with those you don't.
A third option
Judging uses a tremendous amount of our energy and inner
resources. Being non-judgmental uses much less, nonetheless
there is still energy drained when we trigger that mechanism to
stop our likely overwhelming social conditioning to judge.
Another option is to move beyond being judgmental or non-
judgmental and simply learning to observe without opinion.
Difficult, yes initially very. Impossible? No. Try it for
thirty minutes one day. Choose a location like a busy street or
perhaps sitting in a crowded shopping mall.
Attempt to have no opinion on the physical features or
attractiveness of other people (and yourself for that matter),
the selection of their chosen attire and the attitude their
To the extent you can remain in this mind set; to that
degree you will experience a remarkable calmness and serenity.
Nothing will bother you, because you have removed that which is
susceptible to outside influences.
When you don't judge, you are also relieved of the judgement
of others. Unfortunately the harsher the manner in which you
judge others, the greater the burden of judgement that you will
necessarily feel upon yourself.
Choose a third option, to simply have no opinion! Your
senses will still naturally record incoming stimuli but with an
absence of opinion. Be aware of how centered and undisturbed
you will feel at these times. Just try it.
When you are truly inspired (in-spirit) you are unable to
trace the source because it is beyond definitions and
boundaries. Whereas when your motivation is from the ego, it is
most certainly traceable.
The genuine inner prompts will not be wrong or ill-advised
because their source is infinite and all knowing. The prompts
of the ego are fallible because they rely mostly on historical
analysis and deny the intuitive.
This is useful knowledge in determining if the direction you
sense is from within or without, and ultimately if this is the
proper direction for you at this moment.
Clarity...not yet available in pill form
Definition: Clarity from the Latin claritat-, claritas,
from clarus, the quality or state of being clear. Need a
little clarity? Sorry, but it's not for sale. Unless you
find yourself strolling the streets of the futuristic
thriller "Minority Report", where a drug called "clarity"
can be bought quite readily.
Coincidentally or not, off screen the film's lead actor Tom
Cruise espouses the creed of the Church of Scientology, where
the goal is to become "A Clear". According to Scientology and
it's core technique Dianetics, "The goal of Dianetics is a new
state for the individual, sought throughout history but never
attainable before Dianetics. This state is called Clear. A
Clear is a being who no longer has his own reactive mind.
A Clear is an unaberrated person and is rational in that he
forms the best possible solutions he can on the data he has and
from his viewpoint. The Clear has no engrams which can be
restimulated to throw out the correctness of computation by
entering hidden and false data."
Now is that very clear? At least Dianetics doesn't take
credit for the creation of this state called "Clear" (after all
who can create a state of being?) yet until their arrival, this
state was "never attainable". It's akin to saying "until you
buy my map to San Antonio, you can't get there".
This Church goes on to pronounce that "The full glory of the
state of Clear has no comparable description in any writings
existing in our culture. The state had been long sought but was
impossible to achieve without the researches and breakthroughs
of L. Ron Hubbard." It's a wonder anyone found contentment
Do you want clarity? You won't come to it intellectually. No
one can give it to you even if they tell you they are the only
ones that offer it. To see yourself and others with clarity,
you must first be very still.
The mind is as a body of water. If the water is turbulent
then the surface reflection will be choppy and distorted. If
the water is still, the reflection is clearly witnessed. It is
imperative to first still the mind before a state of clarity
can arrive. Use whatever contemplative method/prayer/technique
is most effective in quieting the mind. If you need a simple
technique try the one located here.
There is no timetable to follow here. There is no need to
judge your progress. Your ego wants you to master the mediation
process quickly. It is not a game to be mastered but rather a
process that with the passage of time and discipline, will
become effortless and your ability to still your mind will
When you are truly in the moment, fear and worry cannot
touch you for they require past and future thought.
Anticipating future events and the consequences of your past
actions, catapults you from the safety of the present. Once
knocked off balance and removed from your center, these images
you speak of now absorb your attention. You then come under
their hypnotic power. Should this occur, simply realize it is
happening and return to the present moment.
This will occur countless times so don't keep a scorecard.
Move towards clarity while ever realizing it is process. In
every moment there is potential for insight and growth. The map
needed is gratefully already inside you. Know that you most
certainly can get there from here.
You can always choose to make sure that you have "no engrams
which can be restimulated to throw out the correctness of
computation by entering hidden and false data" if that brings
more clarity instead of confounding.
Then again, when the Psalmist of the Old Testament says "Be
still, and know that I am God..." the words are clarity
Our worldly experience is comprised of three states; waking, dreaming and deep sleep. When awake or dreaming one can witness that they are awake or dreaming. Where is the witness when in deep sleep? If someone watches you while you are in a state of deep sleep, they themselves are aware of the passage of time.
For you though there is only nothingness. There is "no - thing" in that state of deep sleep. No conscious witnessing of body or mind. Peaceful, perfect and undisturbed. Ponder how this may relate to the death of our body as a vehicle for consciousness.
If you choose (and it is a choice) to
remain convinced that you are what your mind tells you that
you are, then try to realize just how tenuous your
self-image really is.
Lose or find a job, lose or find a
lover, or have your ego praised or insulted and watch your
self-image change rapidly and at times radically. The
ramifications of these events cause the mind to constantly
redefine who you are. The mind will tell you that you were
once this or that, and now you are this or that. Clearly
see that it is merely an image.
All the ideas your mind has about you
are perilously hinging on ever-changing circumstances and
Do you think the essence of who you
are can suddenly change because someone hires or fires you,
loves or hates you, or insults or praises you?
Realize that the essence of who you
are (the witness of these thoughts) is infinite and
changeless. Recall that you are able to observe your
thoughts so in fact you are separate from them. That which
does the observing is changeless and unaffected by the
events unfolding around you.
If you remain engrossed in your
thoughts then it follows that you will be tossed to and
fro. Remain objective to your thoughts, tame your ego and
you will be at peace. This inner peace may be achieved with
sincerity in your heart and daily discipline. Practice
present moment awareness at all times and mediate regularly
to still the restless mind.
Every moment...this is it!
In every successive moment you find what truly is. In every moment the truth is boldly revealed. In every moment that you attend to, your destiny is there also. In every moment that you are aware, escape is neither desired nor possible. In every moment, without reference to past or future, there you will find timelessness.
In every moment that you observe a thought, that is another moment in which you realize you are not the thought. In every moment that you give up the need to be somewhere; in that moment you will realize you are where you should be.
In every moment that you give up trying to better yourself, in that moment you will be your best. In every moment that you are not able to close off the flow of life, in that moment you will be completely open. In every moment that you truly do nothing, you will accomplish everything.
Freedom is always here and now and available to us. We need only realize it. When locked into our thoughts and perceptions, freedom appears as but a dream. Separate and unattached from the mind and ego, freedom is found.
Give up your strong attachments to desires and that is when you will find they will begin to be fulfilled. Seeking more knowledge and information upon information only burdens the mind by its sheer weight. Beyond your mind and ego and fixed in the present moment, you will find everything you need to know. Wordless and intuitive.
Your inner self will be your greatest teacher if you only remain still enough to hear it! When you eliminate all the false ideas and notions you have about yourself through regular and earnest meditation, then what remains is the true Self. That is where freedom dwells as well.
Get it now...
Katha Upanishad (circa 1400 BC)
"To many it is not given to
hear of the Self. Many, though they
hear it, do not understand it.
Wonderful is he who speaks of it.
Intelligent is he who learns of it.
Blessed is he, who taught by a good
teacher is able to understand it"
Buddha (circa 530 BC)
"I have taught the truth which
is excellent in the beginning,
excellent in the middle, and excellent
in the end; it is glorious in its
spirit and glorious in its letter. But
simple as it is, the people cannot
understand it. I must speak to them in
their own language. I must adapt my
thoughts to their thoughts. They are
like unto children, and love to hear
tales. Therefore, I will tell them
stories to explain the glory of the
Dharma. If they cannot grasp the truth
in the abstract arguments by which I
have reached it, they may nevertheless
come to understand it, if it is
illustrated in parables."
Tao Te Ching (circa 440 BC)
The Tao that can be followed
is not the eternal Tao. The name that
can be named is not the eternal name.
The nameless is the origin of heaven
and earth While naming is the origin of
the myriad things. Therefore, always
desireless, you see the mystery Ever
desiring, you see the manifestations.
These two are the same-- When they
appear they are named differently. This
sameness is the mystery, Mystery within
mystery; The door to all marvels.
The Gospel According to St. Matthew
- Chapter 13 (circa 70 AD)
10 And the disciples came, and
said unto him, Why speakest thou unto
them in parables? 11 He answered and
said unto them, Because it is given
unto you to know the mysteries of the
kingdom of heaven, but to them it is
not given. 12 For whosoever hath, to
him shall be given, and he shall have
more abundance: but whosoever hath not,
from him shall be taken away even that
he hath. 13 Therefore speak I to them
in parables; because seeing they see
not, and hearing they hear not, neither
do they understand. 14 And unto them is
fulfilled the prophecy of Isaiah, which
saith, By hearing ye shall hear, and
shall in no wise understand; And seeing
ye shall see, and shall in no wise
perceive: 15 For this people's heart is
waxed gross, And their ears are dull of
hearing, And their eyes they have
closed; Lest haply they should perceive
with their eyes, And hear with their
ears, And understand with their heart,
And should turn again, And I should
heal them. 16 But blessed are your
eyes, for they see; and your ears, for
4-8 year olds when posed question
"What is love?"(circa 2000 AD)
"When my grandmother got
arthritis, she couldn't bend over and
paint her toenails anymore. So my
grandfather does it for her all the
time, even when his hands got arthritis
too. That's love." -- Rebecca, age 8
"When someone loves you, the way they
say your name is different. You know
that your name is safe in their mouth."
-- Billy, age 4
"Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of
your French fries without making them
give you any of theirs." -- Chrissy,
"Love is what makes you smile
when you're tired." -- Terri, age 4
Love is when my mommy makes coffee for
my daddy and she takes a sip before
giving it to him, to make sure the
taste is OK." -- Danny, age 7
want to learn to love better, you
should start with a friend who you
hate." -- Nikka, age 6
"When you tell
someone something bad about yourself
and you're scared they won't love you
anymore. But then you get surprised
because not only do they still love
you, they love you even more." --
Matthew, age 7
"Love is like a little
old woman and a little old man who are
still friends even after they know each
other so well." -- Tommy, age 6
my piano recital, I was on a stage and
scared. I looked at all the people
watching me and saw my daddy waving and
smiling. He was the only one doing
that. I wasn't scared anymore." --
Cindy, age 8
"Love is when mommy gives
daddy the best piece of chicken." --
Elaine, age 5 "Love is when your puppy
licks your face even after you left him
alone all day." -- Mary Ann, age 4
"When you love somebody, your eyelashes
go up and down and little stars come
out of you." -- Karen, age 7
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